Starting at a new school can be difficult for any child. However, as a parent or caregiver, there are several things you can do to make the transition smoother and set your child up for success.
Communicate Openly About the Move
Be honest with your child about why they are changing schools. Explain what to expect and why this move will benefit them and allow space for them to ask questions and express their feelings. Children often imagine worst-case scenarios when they lack information, so clear communication can prevent unnecessary anxiety. If your child is moving schools due to a change in long-term foster care or other custody arrangements, sensitivity is especially important. Consult a therapist if you need help navigating these conversations.
Arrange Pre-Start Visits
See if you can visit the new school before the first day. Meeting teachers and touring the facilities helps students know what to expect. If possible, have your child shadow another student for part of a day to experience classroom routines firsthand. These visits turn the unknown into the familiar, easing nerves. If visiting isn't feasible, call the school to introduce yourself and your child. Discuss any major concerns, like learning disabilities, medical needs, or behavioural challenges so staff are informed.
Designate On-Site Contacts
Ask if a current student can act as your child's on-site buddy on the first day(s). Buddies help new students navigate logistics like locating classrooms, sitting together at lunch, and explaining school traditions. Also, designate a go-to adult, such as a counsellor or advisor, to whom your child can talk when questions or problems arise. Knowing they have multiple support contacts empowers students to self-advocate.
Practice Logistics at Home
Walk through the new daily routine at home, including what time they should wake up, what supplies they will need, and typical school rules. Role-playing what questions to ask teachers or how to introduce yourself to classmates also helps social confidence. If they will be taking public transportation, do a test run of the route so it feels familiar by the first day. Familiarity breeds comfort.
Collaborate with the Previous School
Contact your child's previous school to transfer records and align on curriculum needs. Discuss strategies that have helped your child learn best and ask for teacher tips. The more background info the new educators have, the better they can support the transition.
Maintain Family Routines
Amidst the transition chaos, aim to keep family rituals like weekend activities, board game nights or weekly dinners intact. Children derive security from the constants in their lives, so preserving meaningful routines and downtime fosters resilience to adjust to the new normal.
Stay Positive!
Your attitude influences your child's enormously. If you speak negatively about the new school or dwell on fears, your child will mirror that. Focus conversations on growth opportunities, making new friends, and participating in exciting activities – the possibilities over the perils.
With empathy, planning and partnership between home and school, you can set the stage for your child’s next chapter to shine. This transition may challenge you both, but embracing the journey lays the foundation for success.
