I love Pinterest but it’s become a joke amongst women. “Oh, I’m never going to be that woman with the Pin worthy Holiday spread.” Or “I’m never going to be that mom with the kid crafting table, homemade cupcakes all while being impeccably groomed for my child’s 3rd birthday. Guess I’m not making Pinterest this year.” It really has just added to our need to be perfect. In addition to obsessing about those 10 pounds we have gained or having that immaculately cleaned house.
Do You Have A Case Of The Perfectionisms?
It seems that every woman from 18 to 180 suffers from perfectionism. Has it become some sort of disease? It seems so some times. Perfectionism is something I have struggled with in the past and yoga is something I have used to overcome it. There really is no perfect life, perfect spouse, perfect body, perfect pose, perfect house, perfect cupcake, perfect anything. Striving for perfection is….exhausting. I cannot tell you how liberating it is to let go and fall in love with your imperfect perfect self. On your journey to doing so, here are some words to live by:
“Find Joy in the Journey” – President Thomas S. Monson
In our society we spend a lot of our time in the future, planning for tomorrow, worrying about tomorrow. Not to be melodramatic here, but we could be hit by a bus and not live to see another day. Now I’m not saying to throw caution to the wind and not spend another minute planning for your future. However, I think we could all agree that we could spend a little less time thinking about tomorrow and a little more time being present. Ah! There it is! You knew I had to sneak it in here – staying in the present moment. It’s so hard, I know! However, it creates a much happier life when you spend your moments finding joy in every moment than the flaws in everything that may or may not happen in the future. Trust me, I’ve done both. I advise the former.
“Don’t Stress Over What Could’ve Been. Chances Are If It Should’ve Been, It Would’ve Been.”
When I finally got this, it was an ‘aha’ moment for me. While our society spends a lot of time thinking about the future we also spend a lot of time thinking about the past. We think about, “If I could’ve done this or that then I would’ve been doing this and then I would be happy or thin.” Or we think, “I should’ve made that choice and then I could’ve been doing this or that and then I would be happy.” Well, let’s not go down that road. Guess where the coulda, shoulda, woulda road leads? Nowhere. It leads us nowhere real fast. Although it will fill us with a lot of regret, doubt and negative self-talk. Now none of that sounds healthy, does it? It goes back to finding joy in the journey, having faith in the journey and knowing that everything works out in the end. It always does. Sometimes we just have to laugh at the chaos and confusion and trust that everything happens for a reason.
Are you looking to find more peace in the present? Accept your body for its function rather than its form? Check out my video series that were mindfully created with these specific things in mind.
As for waiting to be happy until things are perfect. I will let you in on a little secret. There is no perfect. Never has been, never will be. So let’s choose happiness today.
Carpe Diem, My Friends!
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