We all know life can be short. As we get older, the years that seemed so long when we were young fly by. And, nothing makes time go faster than having kids. As they grow, you have a constant reminder of the time that’s passing. The speed with which they go from toddler to adult passes with staggering speed. Despite our best efforts, there’s no way to stop the passing of time. All you can do is make the most of each moment. But, that’s easier said than done. The trouble is, the chance will soon be gone. So, how can you hold onto those precious moments? Here are a few ideas that should help slow the clock long enough for you to appreciate what you’ve got.
DON’T DWELL ON THE FUTURE
We all dwell on the future more than we should. That’s especially true when you have children. Suddenly, you have to think about where they’ll go to school. Then, before we know it, we have to worry about where they’ll go to college. In no time, it’s time to compare local nursing homes with your children, and your best years are behind you. The best way to avoid missing those years is to stop dwelling on the future. This is no easy task. It takes a complete rework of your mind. Of course, it’s still important you make necessary arrangements for your family. The trick is to let go of those decisions the moment you make them. Practicing arts like mindfulness will help you live in the moment in a general sense. This can only do good things for your family life. Learn to appreciate everything as it happens. Take notice of each day before it’s gone!
EXPERIENCE THINGS TOGETHER
A fantastic way to make the most of each day is to experience things together. Days when you don’t do anything pass by quickly. Getting out and about together can help freeze the clock. Get into the habit of going for days out when your children are young. Before you know it, they’ll be teenagers and won’t have any interest in spending time with you. These days out don’t have to be anything major. Trips to town and country walks are as far as your plans need to go. And, of course, it’s nice to do something special now and again. The more you experience, the more memories you’ll have to cherish. Memories are a fantastic way to hold onto precious moments. Make the most of your weekends by making an effort to do something on at least one of those days. Take the time, too, to arrange family vacations at least once a year. Again, these don’t have to be grand vacations abroad. Local holidays are fine. The key is the time you spend together, not where you go.
TAKE PICTURES AND VIDEOS
Documenting family memories shouldn’t be your goal when you’re out and about. Remember that mindfulness you learned and appreciate each moment for what it is. Even so, pictures and videos are a great way to capture those memories. When your children are older, those pictures and videos will come to mean a lot to them. They’ll mean a lot to you, too. When your kids have moved away and become parents themselves, you can return to these and remember the amazing times you shared. In a world where we all have a camera in our pockets, there’s no excuse not to take plenty of pictures. In keeping with mindfulness, you won’t have to think too hard about capturing each moment. With one click of a button, you’ll have a lasting reminder. Fill your family home with framed pictures of your favorite family memories.
Family video is another important way to cherish those memories. Despite the fact that most phones can film video too, family videos are a dying art. That may be because we’re so used to this form of media by now. Even so, revisiting those videos will be a fantastic experience. Pictures are well and good, but they don’t capture a moment like video can. Bear in mind that you’ll need to back these up. Don’t leave them on your phone and risk losing them. Upload them onto your computer and burn them onto a disk. You could even upload them onto a Youtube channel. All you need do is set them to private if you don’t want the world seeing them. This option has the bonus that you’ll be able to access those videos from anywhere! It also reduces the risk of them ever getting lost.
CHERISH THE SMALL THINGS
It’s not practical to go for days out all the time. Learn to cherish those unassuming moments when you’re just living family life. Those are the important moments that make up a life. They’re the moments you’ll miss most when they’re gone. That’s why it’s important to take note of them. Appreciate the importance of family meals and film nights. Remember to be mindful. It can be hard to take a step back when there’s chatter all around you. Get into the habit of observing what’s going on around you. Step back when your family is sat at the table, and take a deep breath. Know that these are the moments that matter. These small things that we barely ever take the time to notice.
It can be hard to get the whole family together. As your children get older, they’ll try to eat in their rooms instead of at the table. It may be hard to convince them, but don’t let them get into the habit. Hold onto those family meals for as long as possible. There'll come a time when it will be the only time you spend together each day. Use the time to reconnect. Ask your children and partner about their days. Share any developments in your day, too. It may not seem like it at the time, but your family will remember those times fondly, too!