One of the most difficult moments in life comes when we need to take care of an elderly person. Though we often don’t speak of it, many of us are already dreading the day we have to face this issue with our loved ones. In particular, going through this process with a parent is very painful.
What are your options when it comes to taking care of an elderly person? There’s no right answer that is universal. One person may be better off staying at home, or with family. Another may benefit tremendously in a specialised home.
There are a number of reasons you need to have a talk with the person, and a number of ways to approach that talk.
Are you worried about their health based on your observations? You can read more details about health assessments at grandparents.com. Discuss what you've observed and ask them what they think is going on. If they acknowledge the situation, then don’t instantly make a suggestion of action. Ask them what they think would be a good solution. If they don’t see that any problem is at hand, you should use recent examples to support your case.
Another reason to have this talk is to find out what their plans are. You also need to see how prepared they are. Legal and financial plans – or a lack thereof – need to be exposed. For instance, what is their power of attorney situation? Do they have a durable power of attorney and an up-to-date will? If there are any legal documents around, you need to find them as soon as possible. You don’t want to be left having to find them by yourself.
If late life care is the right choice, then there are three ways to go about it. If your loved one is critically ill, then a hospice might be the best option for all of you; you can read more at alphaomegahospice.com. Some people have their parent/s move in with them, so they can more reliably take care of them. Others will consider home care; that is, having a professional come to the elderly person’s house to help with various things. There are also specialised care centres (popularly known as nursing homes) to consider.
Nursing homes have a bad reputation with many people. They can be seen as expensive or emotionally cold solutions to the problem. With the expenses in mind, you should check their health insurance. It’s possible that it covers elderly care, either at home or at a specialised centre. With their personal feelings in mind, it’s important to choose a facility that is both comfortable and close to visitors.
Taking an elderly family member into your home can be great, as long as it’s a comfortable place to be. You can read more about this at professorshouse.com. You get to spend more time with them, as do any younger members of the family in the same house. But it may create more stress for you. Be sure you have somewhere in your home you can take breaks from the extended family time that will result.